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Influence vs. Control


In my pursuit to find the reason why people seem to have control over my emotions, I came across this article.  Ironically, I think it might also help me answer my question from yesterday’s post!  I’m excited to read the other How to Be Happy articles.    

I’ve discovered that the reason I tend to allow others to influence my mood and emotions is because being confronted brings to the surface all of my self-doubts and fears.  My fears cannot hurt me.  They are all in my head.  By allowing my fears to control me, they do nothing but spark anxiety, self-doubt, and I end up imploding and pushing people away.  Now that I’ve identified this, I can put a stop to my behavior. 

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