I hate secrets. Okay… mostly I hate when things are kept from me. I have no problem keeping a secret if someone confides in me, and said secret is really no one else's business.
I’ve had an on-going issue with my parents in regards to
them remaining friends with my ex-boyfriend and his family after I told them
that I don’t like it. Let me expand upon
this and say that my parents have never actually met any of my ex’s family in
person, as they live on the other side of the country. And because of our long-distance
relationship, I can count on one hand the number of times that my ex-boyfriend
was in the same room with my parents.
But, apparently, I can’t tell my Mother who she can be friends
with. So, she emails and Facebooks. And, I recently learned they are making the trip across the country to visit them.
I think what makes me angrier than anything
is that it doesn’t make me feel like my parents care about my feelings. I mean, I have my reasons for cutting ties,
and that should be respected.
Right? Now, because I raise such
a stink every time my ex and his family are brought up, my parents communicate
with them without telling me.
Anyway…
This situation got me thinking about how often I do things
and don’t tell people. Why? Because, I don’t want to hear the other
persons point of view. I don’t want to
hear how they tell me all the time not to make that same mistake. I don’t want to hear that I was in the wrong
for doing something. And sometimes, it’s
because I want to control the opinions of others.
This is not the type of person I want to be. I don’t want disregard another opinion or
point of view simply because it goes against what I want. In many cases, that other person’s point of
view is the right one, and I’m going to change what I’m doing because it’s the
right thing to do. I criticize those
people that just blatantly do whatever they want because the “world revolves
around them.” But, in a way, this is the
same thing. By keeping these secrets,
I’m closing myself off to the real world, and in turn creating my own world,
which revolves around my sole point of view.
Not. Healthy.
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