As we grow up, we grow and mature as people. (I mean, hopefully, right? LOL!) Unfortunately, if our friends don’t grow at the same rate, or in the same way, we may grow apart. Even if you don’t grow apart, people get married and start families, or simply move away. So, for a spinster like me, that has meant searching for friends and different groups to be a part of.
Personal improvement and my faith have been the two big things in my life that have really taken priority, and therefore my time and energy. I can’t remember exactly, but I think my desire for friendship and positivity were probably the original reasons I started signing up for different social groups. I took a dance class for about a year, and tried several different Bible Studies before finding one that really worked for me. I also joined several different Facebook groups until I found two that were really motivational, inspiring, and ones that I felt that I could contribute and add value to.
There are so many reasons why fellowship with others is so important. One thing I noticed was that, if there was something I was interested in, I naturally wanted to talk about it. But, if my friends weren’t interested in the same thing, I would start to feel like my talking about said subject, was becoming boring to them. Plus, two people need to be contributing if there’s going to be any type of growth in a certain area. You need to bounce ideas off of each other, and grow together to become better. Don’t get me wrong. I do the same thing to some of my friends who get into something, and then talk about nothing else. So, no judgment!
While I can appreciate the advice to remove people who are negative or bring you down, we don’t always have that option. And, I’ve come to realize that I can tolerate and appreciate those people who may push my buttons much more easily, if I’m fulfilled. Now, to be honest, I’m not exactly sure what fills me up completely. It’s something I’ve been working on. But, I can tell you that in my experience, by spending time with people who are more positive, supportive, encouraging, and can relate to what you’re thinking or feeling is really super helpful.
It took a while, and trying several different social groups both in regards to social media as well as those who were local and met live, before I found one where I felt at home. It was starting to get discouraging! But, I’m so glad that I kept at it. I feel so blessed to have found my current Bible Study group. It was so great to find a group of smart, loving women, who were all at different places in their life’s journey, but also actively looking for something more. And, wow… it’s been so wonderful to be a part of that. As far as social media groups, I love Healthy Christian Women and my high school friend’s Strong is the New Skinny Facebook pages. Both are just so positive and encouraging! I realize that we can’t rely on others to push us. We need to have the discipline and drive to push ourselves. But, on those days where you need some help. These are some really great places to turn!
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