My Promises to Combat Pride

After last weeks post, I really started to become aware of how often pride takes over my actions. I'm so embarrassed to admit that pride is such a huge part of who I am! There is literally not an hour that goes by that I don't do something prideful. And, by that I mean, bad prideful. Not, the healthy kind.

It always drives me nuts, when there is a problem that I can't find an easy step-by-step process to beat. Like, if I want to lose weight, it's a matter of eating healthier, and exercising more. It's calories in versus calories out. But, when it comes to changing parts of who I am, I'm never quite sure what the answer is, or rather the correct path to follow to get to my goal.

I think that opening my heart to God, and really deepening my relationship with Him is the answer. However, when I first discovered this truth, my first reaction was, "And how do I do that!?" Well, the same way that we deepen our relationship with our friends. I've gotten closer to some of my best friends because we talk, and share deeper more intimate struggles and triumphs. It's the same with God. We need to pray, repent, and have those deeper and honest conversations with Him.

Along with prayer, I've created a list of promises to help me stop myself when I'm acting prideful.

I will never think I'm better than another person. There is always something that person does better than me.
I won't be passive aggressive, and use bad behavior to make a point, or get my way.
I won't be so proud, that I won't accept help when I need it.
I will not be critical of others. I have my own problems to worry about.
I won't play dumb. I will own up to to what I do.
I will stop bringing the conversation back to me, but rather, focus on the other person.
I will not act a certain way, in order to get others to feel sorry for me.
I will not make snide comments.
I will not feel sorry for myself.

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