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Emotionally Healthy Relationships


Happy February 1st!

The title of this video is Emotionally Healthy Marriages, but it can really apply to all types of relationships.  I like to listen to informational videos while I work during the day, and I’ve listened to this probably upwards of 10 times in the last week.  I just can’t seem to get enough.  I don’t think any one person can listen to this, and not find a way that they could be doing better in their relationships.  I seriously learn something new, every time I listen to this video.  To be fully honest, it took listening to it a few times to stop wanting to point the finger at someone in my life and say see, see what Jimmy is saying!?  Do you see how you’re hurting us!?  But, I’m consciously telling my defensive and prideful side to take a seat, and really just listen for what I can personally be improving. 

Jimmy Evans from Marriage Today explains that emotions can really affect everything we do and think.  And, if we are still angry or conflicted about an event or person from our past, the person that will pay the most, will be our partner.  We need to take responsibility for our own emotional health and happiness.  Blaming others is way too easy.  We need to take the first step, and make the needed changes in ourselves, despite what our partner does.  Because, even if only one person in the relationship changes, the relationship will change. 


“No external person or event in my life controls my level of emotional health and happiness, my response to them does.”

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