I have become a huge fan of Matthew Hussey! I never miss any of his weekly videos. They are always full of useful information, and gentle reminders of how to act like a mature adult in relationships. Something, I personally, can always use a little help with.
Last week, he posted this video on YouTube, and it was such a great reminder to fight fair. I tend to go silent when someone hurts me because I don't really want to fight. I don't like the confrontation. And when I go quiet, I end up bottling up the hurt for a later date. Then, when that same incident or a similar incident happens in the future, I end up exploding. Which means, I look like a crazy, emotionally immature person because the incident is normally something small. But, when you compound it over the course of weeks or even years, it doesn't feel so small. In my old age, I've learned that open lines of communication in any relationship are super, ridiculously important. The kind of communication where you are able to speak to one another fairly, so you not only have the opportunity to let the other person know how their actions are affecting you, but in return you need to also be able to receive their feedback in a mature and responsible matter as well. For me, it was a huge challenge to get the point where negative feedback did not feel like an attack, but rather an opportunity to learn and grow.
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