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Love and Respect


Love and Respect by Dr. Emerson Eggerichs is amazing.  This book is phenomenal, incredible, fascinating, mind blowing... life altering...  I cannot say enough good things about this book!

It is seriously LIFE CHANGING!  I am bold enough to say, this has got to be the best relationship book ever written.

We all need both love and respect.  However, what I found most staggering, is that men place greater importance on respect, whereas women will almost always rank love as the most important above everything else.  It has completely changed the way that I approach the men in my life.

When I want to show someone how important they are to me, I will shower them with love.  If there is a way to show someone how much they mean to me, I will find a way through small thoughtful gestures.  My goal is always to make someone feel loved and special.  I kind of consider myself to be the queen of thoughtful gestures.

So, when my ex told me that thoughtful gestures weren't enough, I had a really hard time accepting this.  I thought he was just being mean.  But, what I've come to discover, is that he was not being mean.  In fact, in his way, he was trying to help me to love him in the way that he needed!  He is seriously the best man.  He tried reaching out, to help me to see what was not working for him in our relationship.  Most men would not do that.

There is something for both men and women in this book, with several chapters dedicated to each.  It even includes multiple ways to love your wife, and respect your husband.  Respect comes so naturally to men, so they are called to unconditionally love their wives.  And, love comes easier to women, and they are called to unconditionally respect their husbands.  Unconditional respect is not something I had heard of before reading this book.  We typically think that respect is earned.  But, there are so many great testimonials of what happens when woman give their husbands unconditional respect. 

This is the video that made me immediately order the book off Amazon.  It's kind of annoying that the video is in two parts, but definitely worth a watch!



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