I am a sucker for any article implying that it can help me
obtain the effortlessly chic style and sex appeal of a French woman. So, naturally, I clicked on New York and Paris Style: What’s the Difference? Camille Rowe is a French
born model, and has spent so many years living in both New
York and Paris,
that she’s able to give a nice perspective between the women living in both
cities.
What struck me the most was that New
York women dress for other women, whereas in Paris, women dress for men. I admit that I had a hard time wrapping my
head around this statement. (I’m not the
quickest light bulb in the shed.) When I
brought it up to my best guy friend, he said, and I quote, “There are women out
there who think of someone other than themselves? That’s it, I’m going to Paris!”
I still struggled with this. I
mean, I want men to notice me. Not in
the sense that I’m hoping every man on the street will approach me for a
date. But, I want men to look twice when
I walk by. I admit, I’m looking for a
sense of validation that I’m not too old, ugly, and completely
undesirable.
What started the juices flowing, is when I recognized that I
dress differently when I meet up with my best girlfriend. I consider her to be very glamorous. She’s sexy and European, and compared to her
I feel plain and homely. So, I dress
up. I try to be my most trendy and sexy
self when we’re together. I dress up to
make myself feel better. I’m competing
with my friend! And, the more I thought
about it, I make fashion choices based off of how I compare myself to other
women. Do I look cuter than that girl in
the office? Do I look classier than the
girl on the train? Do I look more
professional and put together than my stay-at-home-mom friends?
I was under the allusion that just because I like the
attention of men, I was dressing for men.
But, I’m not. I dress to satisfy
a feeling within myself. This is selfish
and self-centered thinking. Ugh! While I
totally agree with being comfortable with what you wear, and that your personal
sense of style should be a true reflection of yourself, I also recognize that by
dressing to compete with other women, I’m not focusing on men. And, how do I expect to have a successful
relationship with a man if I’m thinking only of satisfying my own feelings and
insecurities? (I mean, if I’m doing it
here, then I’m most likely doing it in other areas.)
I’m not planning on changing my personal sense of
style. But, it’s something to think about, isn’t it? How often do I only focus on myself, and not
consider the needs of others. As women,
aren’t we supposed to satisfy the needs of our man, in our perfectly imperfect
way?
I came across an article where an American woman’s French
husband spoke of the differences he noticed between the two cultures. And, in regards to the way women dress, he
was very surprised at how casually American women go out in public. It kind of makes me think of that scene in Clueless,
where Cher says, “So okay, I don’t want to be
a traitor to my generation and all but I don’t get how guys dress today. I
mean, come on, it looks like they just fell out of bed and put on some baggy
pants and take their greasy hair (eww!) and cover it up with a backwards cap
and like, we’re expected to swoon? I don’t think so.”
Are we girls just as guilty!? I know I’ve gone out to run errands thinking I look cute, with my greasy
hair, sweatpants and flip flops.
Guys who wore baggy pants, and backwards caps over their unwashed hair
in the 90’s, probably thought the same thing.
I bet they were hoping that a woman would see through the grunge, and
love him for who he is. I’ll be honest,
I wouldn’t want some guy that looks like he hasn’t showered in three days to
approach me for a date. If I want a guy to consider me when getting dressed in the morning, I’m
certainly going to do the same for him.
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