Diary of a Spinster and Lunatic

  Ahh… the holidays are officially here and in full swing.   I had the most lovely visit with my family over Thanksgiving.   I am so blessed!!   We ate way too much, watched way too much football for my taste, and really just hunkered down for a couple of days enjoying each other’s company.   I didn’t even mind all the stuff everywhere.   J   I felt sad and lonely after everyone left on Saturday.   Luckily, I’ll get to see them again in a few weeks!!   There were many lessons learned over those couple of days.   For one, I need to maintain a healthy and active mind.   I also, need to stay on top of my hearing and monitor the progression of loss.   After being around my parents for a few days, I see my future, and I’m screwed.   LOL.   I paid attention at how my parents and my sister and her girlfriend interacted, and I can see evidence of the importance of maintaining open communication, and remaining fr...

My parents posted this excerpt from Dragnet to their Facebook page recently.   I found the message incredibly insightful.   Something that I find difficult in my life is to keep things in perspective.   Experience matters.   And, it makes a huge difference on how we view the world and our everyday lives.   If we don’t go through hardships, we would never appreciate the good things in our lives.   Yeah, there are days when I seriously hate my job.   But, when I stop and look back at all of the horrible jobs I’ve had in the past, my job, even on a really bad and stressful day, is really great.   I actually enjoy what I do.  And, for the first time in my life I feel like I have a purpose and contribute to the business of my company.   Instead of looking at those stressful days, where it feels like the whole world is against you, as a bad day.   I plan to look at those days as a day of personal growth, and be grateful for the...

…than right now to start making changes.   Over the summer, I put on some additional weight.   Personally, I blame the cheeseburgers and chili cheese fries on the cruise I took in August.   Regardless of the cause, I haven’t been feeling like myself.   I feel uncomfortable in my own skin.   With Thanksgiving right around the corner, I didn’t want to look at the amazing feast that my family and I put together with dread, knowing that it was just going to add to my expanding waist line.   So, I promised myself that I would lose at least 5 pounds (half the overall weight I need to lose) in the 10 days leading up to the holiday.   Not an unattainable goal.   I’m asking for a Fitbit for Christmas, and can’t wait to track all of my activity and vital signs.   But, why wait until Christmas when I can start now?   I’m hoping to lose the additional 5-6 pounds I need to lose by Christmas, but I’ll take another look at my goals after ...

It is T minus 10 days until Thanksgiving!   And, only 8 days until my parents arrive.   Even though I’ve been slowly prepping over the last 4 to 6 weeks, there is still so much to do!   And, I find myself feeling both excited and anxious all at the same time.   After my parents moved away a couple years ago, I started to take over hosting Thanksgiving for my family.   I love the idea of having my family close and enjoying a few days together where we do nothing but eat too much, watch holiday movies, and play games.   That being said, I live in a small apartment.   So, while I look forward to having my family stay with me this time of year, it’s also a source of anxiety and stress.   It’s hard having 5 adults and a dog in such a small space.   Not to mention, the week of Thanksgiving is pretty much the only time I ever have guests.   I’ve gotten really used to doing things my way.   And, while I love my family dearly, it s...

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I love the opportunity to learn something new about myself, and further develop my relationship skills, romantic or otherwise.   So, after reading this blog post last Friday, I immediately walked to my local Barnes and Nobles and picked up a copy of Attached.   The book describes, from a scientific perspective, how we as humans develop attachments to other people, specifically a potential mate.   I’ve often looked at other couples and wondered how their relationship seems so effortless.   Which makes me wonder, why do I seem to struggle so badly in the romance department?   What’s wrong with me!? The book describes three types of people, with the majority of the population being the secure category. Anxious people are often preoccupied with their relationships and tend to worry about their partner’s ability to love them back. Avoidant people equate intimacy with a loss of independence and constantly try to minimize closeness. Secure people fee...